The Law of Attraction reminds us over and over and over that the most important thing we can do for ourselves, those we love, for our communities and for the world is to feel good. When we fee happy and are ‘vibrating’ at the top of the ‘emotional guidance scale’ (with despair and powerlessness at the bottom and inner peace, love and joy, at the top) we attract similarly good feeling people, places and things into our experience and contribute to the overall well-being of the world.
We’ve all have had the experience of leaving the house in a bad mood, tripping on the steps, having a car drive by and splash our clean, white outfit before we bump into a lamp post (an exaggeration of course). We’ve also had the experience of waking up on top of the world, walking out into a sun-shiny day, greeting our smiling neighbors and gliding into a parking place right in front of our destination.
Since the world is indeed our mirror, it is all important to learn how to sooth our own energy and shift from negative to positive channels as quickly as possible. In TV terms, think of it like shifting from a news channel that makes you feel fearful and anxious to a show that gets you laughing or marveling at world’s beauty or the heroism of our fellow man. We can learn to change the channels of our minds and transform the world.
Yesterday I had a chance to practice what I preach. Here’s the story: I stepped into a dinghy from a sailboat to go ashore with several friends. The dinghy captain pulled the starter cord to get the motor going and forgot to look to see if anyone was behind him. Oops. I was, and I got hit in the nose by his elbow. Ouch. I had tears in my eyes and my nose hurt. I could feel the upset ooze through my entire body and I said a few choice, bleepable words. I carried the disgruntled mood ashore and into the restroom where I went to check out my nose and the bruise that was starting to discolor the inside of my eye socket. When I joined my boyfriend on the ledge of the pool, I saw a large golden dog lying on the ground basking in the attention of a cute 6 or 7-year-old girl. I went over to the dog and joined the girl in stroking the silky golden fur while chatting about how she (on vacation) missed her dog – a rescue dog named Moxie -from Mexico no less. I shared that I had a poodle named Roxie – all while petting the dog.
When I got up to rejoin my group. I was in a completely different state of mind and heart. I had soothed my own energy, shifted my focus and changed the channel. If I’d had my easy button with me – I would have pressed it and laughed as it said, “That was Easy”.
Dogs and little girls are no fail vibe raisers for me – as is music, a walk on the beach, a chocolate heart and a hug
In fact, I have a pretty extensive list of energy soothing activities and thoughts that calm me down and get me back to that feel good place from which I invite positive people, places and experiences into my life.
I know a teen who goes into the weight room and punches a punching bag to calm him down and release pent up anger. I have another friend who puts on her headset, lies back and listens to Mozart and another who sits in a lotus position and meditates and another who cooks up a storm.
What do you do to soothe your energy when your feathers are ruffled, when it rains on your parade or when you wake up on the wrong side of the bed or you burn your toast? What do you do when you walk into work and someone says that the outfit you’re wearing makes you look fat, or you look at a newspaper headline and feel a wave of despair threatens to sink your ship?
Whether it’s something big or the littlest look, comment or passing thought, it helps to be prepared and to have your self-soothing practices ready to click into gear.
Start noticing what makes you feel good. Make a list – your own personal prescription for energy soothing. It’s free, no doctor’s signature required and custom designed to move you from sad, mad, frustrated or angry up the emotional guidance scale to feeling better – through optimism, hopefulness and on upwards toward peace, love and joy. It’s not about solving the problem, getting even or resolving the state of the world. It’s about soothing your energy in the present moment and freeing yourselves to move forward joyfully
So, what will it be – a golden puppy and a little girl, dancing up a storm, diving into turquoise water or sitting rocking on your porch? You get to name your own best energy soothing medicine.
Paddle-boarding today, I discovered that the choppier the seas and the bigger the swells, the stiller I needed to be as I allowed the movement of the wind and the waves to direct me, while gently using my paddle to steer.
I’m trying to bring this learning to bear on the progress (or lack of progress) of Ready, Set, Love – my 21 day love challenge. I was going to start the challenge on 3/1 and end on the first day of spring! It didn’t happen: I went sailing, I decided to use a designer for the ‘squeeze page’ and I haven’t heard back from him. I haven’t finished the squeeze page, I don’t have the perfect picture, I don’t follow through, something is wrong with me, maybe I don’t want to do it anyway, maybe no one will come.
Looking at the excuses above and the ‘monkey mind’ chatter that is the constant backdrop in my mind, I see that the messages (as usual) are discouraging, negative and punitive. When I believe them I feel deflated, low energy and like giving up.
When I question my beliefs and start telling a different story I relax and enjoy working on my challenge and not setting a date – yet – all while sailing. Maybe I don’t need a designer for a squeeze page but can create something simpler and cheaper with a picture and text that would get the point across and make clicking on the lick and signing up and paying ($47.97) a no brainer, a wise investment and a bargain.
When I remind myself that I am perfect just the way I am, the universe is a friendly place and everything is happening for my benefit, I shift the darker, heavy energy that collects and it’s like opening a window and feeling the light stream in along with the fresh air.
Here at the beach the sound of the waves breaking is soothing and timeless. I am reminded of what Abraham says,” You will never get it all done and there is all the time in the world.”
To keep you (and me) posted: Ready, Set, Love is being born. I am excited about the amazing love material I am gathering, how focusing on love is changing my life and how it’s going to change yours!
Stay tuned for love.
I’ve been collecting evidence of an abundance of love in my life and in the world, so when I went with my honey David to visit his 85 year old Dad, Frank, and to meet up with some sailing friends, the evidence kept just kept on piling up.
We all stayed at Frank’s house, which was beautiful, very comfortable and filled with photographs of family on every surface and on many walls. So much pride and so much love oozed out from everywhere. I could feel the close connection and deep and abiding love between David and his Dad and between all the family members I met.
Love was in evidence during the entire four-day visit. It poured forth in the form of Bagels and Bialy’s and ruglach (sp?) and Chinese buffets – food, glorious food. And it poured in when Aunt Ethel, Mark, and Aunt Judy came for dinner. It was abundantly and poignantly present when Frank took us to the beach and to where he and his wife used to come to sit and watch people fish.
Aunt Ethel, 85, came to dinner with her boyfriend of 11 yrs., Mark, 89. Both were sprightly, warm, funny, smart and ageless. Ethel told me how they’d met; beaming reminding me that love springs eternal. Mark said to me, “It goes fast. Have fun.” Aunt Judy was still mourning her husband of 50 plus years and that was yet another example of love.
It was wonderful being around family who love and care for each other and who have generous hearts and open arms. Each night as I soaked in the sunken, glassed in bath-tub in endless hot water, I gave thanks and thought, ” I must be doing something right to be surrounded by so much love” and “This deliberate creation/ law of attraction stuff works.”
May your cup runneth over where ever you are and may you see and celebrate love everywhere and always.
David and Annie at the Bubbly Pool
When I realized that what matters most is saying yes to love, I invited love into my life, saw that it’s an inside job, that it’s always been there, and that love does make the world go round.
Louise Hay, the inspiring author of You Can Heal Your Life says:
“We have so much love in this world, and we have so much love in our hearts, and sometimes we forget. Sometimes we think there isn’t enough, or there is just a small amount. So we hoard what we have or we are afraid to let it go. We are afraid to let it out.
But those of us who are willing to learn, realize that the more love we allow to flow out from us, the more there is within us and the more we receive. It is endless and timeless.
Love is really the most powerful healing force that there is. Without love we could not survive at all. If tiny babies are not given love and affection, they wither and die. Most of us think we can survive without love, but we cannot. Love for ourselves is the power that heals us. Practice as much as you can.”
Jeannette Maw, (an amazing Law of Attraction Coach) agreed that lack of self-love was at the bottom of my being stuck in the areas of love and money and sent me her e-book: The Art of Self-Love: Your Essential Key to Successful Manifesting. It’s full of tips on how to fall hopelessly in love with yourself. I see that my relationship with myself is a mirror of all my relationships and that practicing true self-love has a powerful ripple effect.
The roads will be lined with stuffed animals, chocolates and flower arrangements and I’m already thinking about what to get my new love while keeping the focus on what its really about, LOVE.
I’ve been growing my ‘say yes to love” muscle by practicing a meditation shared by Baba Ram Dass in Be Love Now. Say to yourself, “I am loving awareness”. Focus your attention in the middle of your chest on the heart-mind. Breathe in love and breathe out love. Watch all of the thoughts that create the stuff of your mind and love everything you can be aware of. Just love.
I’m not limiting myself to romance this valentine’s season. I’m including everything and everyone in my loving awareness, opening up my heart and saying yes to love.
xxxooo
“Learn to wish that everything should come to pass exactly as it does.” – Epictetus
I went to register my car this morning. Armed with duck tape to secure my Mylar replacement mirror, the ever present computer and bags of books to leave at the Frenchtown Deli book exchange, I set off for the Department of Motor Vehicles making sure to ‘ prepave” the experience. I was picturing it not too long and easy.
I was the first person in the inspection lane so imagine my resentment when an SVU pulled up next to me and zoomed into the lane before me. I hesitated, decided to let it go and returned to reading my book, 7 Spiritual Principles. Then I started worrying that ‘my’ inspector looked like a “…a tough cookie”. I almost went there, but chose to withhold judgment and all she asked was for lights, papers, have a nice day … no problem.
The lessons were coming really clear, concrete and in my face. There were a few more at the DMV, including the benefit of having a great book, patience, a sense of humor and gratitude. On my way back to my car I heard someone call my name. Joe pointed out that there was some kind of marathon and the streets were blocked so I avoided sitting in traffic, took a detour and breezed on through to find myself stuck behind a big WAPA linesman truck lumbering up the winding hills of the north side. The road was too curvy to pass so I chose a deep breath, slowing down and enjoying the scenery. to chomping at the bit, hyperventilating or trying to pass.
I played with the channels in my mind. It’s so easy to switch to a happier, more downstream channel when we notice where we are. With an intention to be fully present, to take the higher road, open my heart and stay focused on the light and where I’m going – I get to enjoy the ride. I glide past the brambles, the velcro, the zippers and tangled webs – for the most part- and when I don’t, I push off from the banks like I did when I was tubing in the Russian River – breaking free and laughing.
When the WAPA truck finally turned off, I got to see the driver – a handsome West Indian hunk with a beaming smile. He waved. I waved back and drove down the steep hill home, drinking in the breathtaking views out to sea. Walking into my house I spotted Ganesh, the Indian elephant God, remover of obstacles, sitting on my shelf. I couldn’t help thinking of the inner obstacle course I’d just been on and how I’d rounded each pole, enjoyed the ride, and had fun doing it.
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