At this very moment, I’m going through something that is turning out to be great evidence that the law of attraction works. The more I set my intention and picture how I want things to be, the better things keep turning out.
I’m new to the world of Virtual Assistants. I didn’t even know what the term meant when I started using the internet to promote my Life and Law of Attraction Coaching business. I was connecting with clients and colleagues, creating ebooks, pod-casts and ezines and I quickly found out I was in over my head and needed help. I got clear that my time is better spent on stuff I’m good at and love – coaching, writing, creating programs, speaking. I decided to farm out the rest.
I talked to a VA who has a team of VAs. She made me feel great – like she’d make my life easier and point me in the right direction, holding my hand. The VA she referred me to wasn’t a good match. The turn-around time left me fidgeting and I felt like crying. Not good. ‘
I got a new VA. I liked her. She lives in a cold place, has a little kid I can hear sometimes in the background (this is good to me) and she seemed to know what she was doing. She’s helped me a lot even though I’ve got to admit she doesn’t respond as quickly as I’d like and did a few things that seemed careless to me. I was starting to get frustrated.
This week, things really started going downhill. A mass email went out that looked bad. A new product I’m working on wasn’t coming through as planned. Things were screwed up and I was starting to get upset and angry.
My VA apologized for the bad looking letter and started to work on solving my other problems but I knew that more was required and that it had to start with me.
I sat down and wrote a list of what I want and need a VA to do for me. I put tasks and skils on the list. I also put down good communication, timeliness and the ability to trouble shoot and anticipate problems. My list grew and I got clearer as I kept writing. It felt good to remind myself that I am an employer and a customer and its a good thing for me to know what I want and am willing to pay for.
Next I sat down and wrote a list of what she can expect of me: to give her enough time to get things together, to be clear about what I want and how I want things to look and work, to communicate clearly and when there is a problem to let her know so we can solve it.
I set my intention to have a good working relationship with my VA – one that serves us both in an easy and relaxed manner, in a healthy and positive way – for the good of all.
And then I wrote her an email. I put a lot of my list in the email and I told her of my over-riding intention – a productive, flowing relationship for both of us.
TODAY SHE HAS BEEN ON TOP OF EVERYTHING. She told me to put URGENT on emails that I want her to see right away. She gave me times she checks her email and promised she would acknowledge receipt of messages and let me know when I could expect her to get to my requests. She said her intention was to have a good relationship and do a great job for me.
I FEEL SO MUCH BETTER. She has called a couple of times this afternoon and is working on solving a glitch for me. She has been proactive and called her supervisor for help. She seems involved and invested in making my business work.
When you focus on something it expands. When I was focusing on what wasn’t working and what I didn’t like, I kept getting it in spades. When I to start focusing on what I wanted and how I wanted to feel in this relationship, I started getting that. There’s no contest between the two. I want to good stuff.
If there’s a relationship in your life that is driving you nuts or annoying you more, or less, try what I did and see if it helps. Step back and set an intention for how you would like things to be and get clear about what you want from the relationship and what you are willing to give to the relationship. Sometimes communicating this helps. Sometimes you just have to get clear in your own head to watch the metamorphosis into the better-case scenario. Suddenly there’s air and space and light and hope and you’re partners instead of adversaries.
Try it. You’ll like it.
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